Topic: A man who passes by his local joint to take one for the road before going home just to buy time and another who cries in the Car Before Entering His House:
Many people will never understand the silent battled some men fight silently every day. There are men who will sit in their cars for some minutes before entering their houses, others pass by their local joints not because they are tired from work but because they are mentally, psychologically and emotionally exhausted or drained. Their cars or the bars becomes their only place where they can breathe, think, console and even sometimes cry without being judged. This is because inside the house are they expected to be strong. They have to be:
Strong for the wife, children, the family and in actual fact strong for everyone. BUT who is strong for them? Some men go home to constant criticism instead of peace. No appreciation for the bills they struggle to pay, no recognition for the sacrifices they make instead just complaints, comparisons and excessive pressure. Therefore before he opens the door to his house he sits quietly in the car gathering the strength to walk in and pretend everything is okay. Thats why before they leave for home after work they will take two for the road not because they love alcohol but because they find peace there. Society taught men that crying is weakness so many of them cry in silence where no one can see them. Hence behind many “strong men” we see walking around confidently are men who are fighting battles nobody knows about. Men do not ask for too much — all they just wants is respect, peace, appreciation and understanding from the woman they love and their families. A man can fight the whole world but what breaks him to the core is fighting battles inside his own home. We need to check on our men too and give them space. They need love, respect and psychological and emotional safety.